We are into the first hours of 2020. Only a few days ago, it was the final stretch, the last mile, the final chapter before the start of a new decade.
For some it was an opportunity to the push to the end while for others it signaled time to lose control and experience a loss of momentum. Regardless of where you are, now is a time for reflection and lessons learned without losing sight of the positive gains you have created. Now is the time to acknowledge where you are and take account of the level of energy required to launch into a new year with renewed confidence.
It's time to ask yourself (and be very clear about) what worked, what didn’t work, and what opportunities emerged.
The first important step to move forward with new goals and opportunities that will give you better outcomes in the coming year is to reflect on and celebrate your accomplishments in 2019. This enlightening confidence-building process begins by looking at our past goals and identifying breakthroughs, lessons learned, and pathways that reflect personal resilience against ongoing and unexpected change.
1. Goals in Review
Accomplishments “What worked”
Challenges “What didn’t work”
Opportunities “Identify patterns”
After these items have been fully explored and listed in a confidence development journal, take a moment for mindfulness and self-gratitude. Thank yourself for honoring your vision, for living authentically, and for moving forward with greater understanding and appreciation for yourself and those around you.
After you’ve fully celebrated, take a look at your accomplishments, challenges, and opportunities through the lens of self-discovery. What does this mean about your personal capacity, how you mentally frame challenges, and the personal systems you have put in place to hold yourself accountable.
How can patterns of behavior be reframed into an opportunity? For example, if your goal was to write one blog a month and you missed four months, what was the pattern of challenges that led to this result. One opportunity may be that during summer months, kids, vacation, and family begin to overwhelm your plans. Consider writing bi-monthly blogs during the preceding months, or breaking an old bedtime pattern to add a new hourly routine. You could even invite a family member or colleague to write as a special project.
2. Self Awareness
Know your capacity (strengths, weaknesses, challenges)
Self coaching through challenges (match your goals with your passion)
Keeping a vision, plan, map (create a system of accountability)
The good news is that if you haven’t yet completed some goals, or achieved the outcomes you want, there is still time. These questions will also work against a checklist of your remaining goals. Prioritize the list in order of what you can most accomplish in eight weeks (yes, there's still time) and ask yourself, “What would prevent me from accomplishing these goals now.” Start working to remove the easiest obstacles and work towards freeing up harder challenges just in time for the beginning of a new year.
Take a fresh approach and renew your confidence. You can do it!
Stay in Command!
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